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I think my marriage is over. I might need to get a separation or a divorce. Where do I start?

Whether you are trying to save your marriage, interested in a separation to see if things get better, or you know it’s not going to work out and you just want to get divorced as quickly as possible, we can help you. If you are not married, or are already divorced and you need help with spousal support, child support, or child custody and visitation issues, we can help you with that, too.

When facing divorce in Virginia, you have a lot of options and it can be difficult to know what your next steps should be. You want to protect yourself, your children, and everything you have earned. If you have questions about reconciliation, separation, divorce, or establishing custody or support, you have come to the right place. Our experienced Virginia Beach, Chesapeake, and Newport News divorce attorneys and child custody lawyers can guide you through your options and help you develop the best strategy for your future happiness, whether you choose to stay with your husband, negotiate a separation agreement, or fight it out in a divorce or custody trial.


Even if you are hoping that, ultimately, your marriage will be saved, there are steps you can take now to protect yourself in the event that things don’t work out the way you hope.  We have counselled many women who have gone on to repair their marriages, even after a divorce has been filed. Virginia law provides for steps that you can take now, even while you are working on your marriage or reconciling your marriage, which will help you make the right choices for yourself and protect you in the event things don’t get better or fall apart in the future.


Some women want to separate because they need the time and space to think about whether or not to get a divorce. Some women separate simply because it is the first step in getting a divorce. Some women have no choice – their husband has left the marriage and they simply find themselves separated.

Women are often misinformed about what “separation” means in Virginia—some are separated and don’t even know it!

A lot of critically important things can happen during your separation period. During this time, we can negotiate your spousal support, child custody and visitation, child support, and property division issues amicably, without having to undergo an expensive and emotionally draining contested divorce. We can help you take immediate steps to protect yourself in the event you want a separation – even if it is a separation under the same roof.

Warning: Do not sign an agreement without having it reviewed by an attorney first!  A Virginia Separation Agreement is permanent, binding, and difficult (if not impossible) to un-sign later.


If you already know that you want a divorce, and you want it done as quickly as possible, we can help you. We’ll discuss your options, come up with your divorce plan, and our experienced team will help you move through the process.  We’ll be by your side, every step of the way.

You can get divorced in a number of different ways.  Whether you and your husband amicably agree to divide everything according to a separation agreement, fight it out in court, or combine the two, we can help you come up with a plan that keeps your unique objectives in mind. 

Fast-Track Divorce Program

We also have a fast-track program for women who already know what they want.  Our premium divorce service, Weekend Divorce, is a program reserved for the executive or professional woman who doesn’t have the time to go back and forth to court over a period of months.  A flat fee covers your divorce, which will take place over the course of one weekend, and the judge will come to you.

Support, Custody, and Visitation

We routinely handle complicated custody and support cases, and our attorneys include national speakers and authors on child custody litigation.  We get it. We also know what information judges are looking for in making custody decisions. We can help design a case strategy which will focus on the issues most important to winning your case. We can also tell you what steps you should be taking now and what steps NOT to take now to be in the best position you can for custody and visitation.

Are you ready to move forward or have questions about what to do next?

  1. Schedule a consultation.

For immediate help, please schedule a confidential consultation with one of our experienced attorneys via Skype, telephone, or in-person at one of our three office locations: Virginia Beach, Newport News, or Chesapeake by calling 757-425-5200.

  1. Check out our books.

If you’re not ready to come in for a consultation now, consider requesting a free copy of one of our three e-books. These guidebooks will give you pointers, help you understand the divorce process, and let you know what to expect if you do go forward with a divorce or custody case. Remember: Knowledge is power! 

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  1. Use some of our other resources!

In addition to our books, we offer live and recorded divorce seminars entitled “What Women Need to Know About Divorce.”

Our custody seminar, “Custody Bootcamp for Moms,” is an intense, six-hour long program, designed to help moms who will be representing themselves in their custody cases.  At Custody Bootcamp, we specifically teach moms exactly what they need to know to prepare and present their cases to the court.

We also have a “Design Your Divorce” DIY membership site for savvy do-it-yourselfers who want to handle their divorces without an attorney. Learn more about do-it-yourself divorce in Virginia. 

Explore our site. Read our blogs for helpful tips and answers to the questions women ask us most. Register for a seminar or sign up for a free book.

Or, if you don’t know what you want to do yet, but want to keep in touch with us and have some fun with the amazing women in our community, click on the Girls Night Out button to see what our next adventure will be. You are welcome to come – and bring a friend. You don’t have to be a client, or even a potential client. This is all about having a little bit of fun.

Remember, things do get better. And if you need us, we are here to help. 

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Kristen Hofheimer
A passionate advocate and well known champion for women in divorce and child custody issues.