After your affair is discovered, your husband will likely be hurt and upset and possibly threaten to file for a Virginia divorce on the grounds of adultery.
If you're regretting your infidelity and want to save your marriage, you'll have to take steps to win back your husband's trust in you.
- First, let him have his space. Your husband may leave for a while following the discovery of your affair. While this may make you fear for the future, it doesn't always mean your marriage is over. Most men feel a great deal of jealousy and anger in reaction to their wife's affair and so they often choose to take some "cooling off" time away from home.
- When your husband returns to your home/life, frequently reassure him that you have cut off all interaction with your former flame. Do whatever it takes to avoid the 3rd party, and be open with your husband about your current cell phone bills, credit card bills, and any other documents that show how you've been spending your time and money.
- Give it time. Only time and understanding will ease the painful feelings resulting from an affair and rebuild the trust and love in your marriage. Don't rush the process. Seeking out a couple's counselor or therapist during this time may prove a great help in re-establishing your marriage.
If, despite your best efforts and saving your relationship, the marriage continues to fall apart, talk to a Virginia divorce attorney who can advise you on the best course of action.
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