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Should I consider "letting some things go" after my Virginia divorce when it comes to a stressful co-parenting situation?

A: After a Virginia divorce, emotions can run high, and children can easily get caught up and used as pawns in their parents' drama. When co-parenting disagreements get out of hand, one parent may speak disparagingly about the other parent to the children.

A parent may do this simply because he or she needs to vent, or in a deliberate attempt to turn their child against the ex-spouse. Either way, this kind of behavior can tear a family apart and damage a child's sense of safety and security. It can also lead to trouble for the parent accused of trying to drive a wedge between ex-spouse and child. When it comes to Virginia child custody, the courts don't look kindly on a parent who tries to destroy his or her ex's relationship with their child.

There may be times, however, when a parent might need to speak up when co-parenting after Virginia divorce. For example, if your ex is playing the bad-mouthing game against you, you may have to set things straight with your children. If you find yourself in this situation, be sure you're saying only enough to clear things up, not to paint your ex as the bad guy.

When in doubt, speak with your Virginia divorce attorney. Your attorney can help advise you about the legal implications of your ex's behavior as well as your own, and can counsel you about your options.

If co-parenting after Virginia divorce is very stressful for you and your children, you might want to employ the services of a licensed family counselor. With the right guidance, you can improve your family's communication skills and your co-parenting experience.

Contacting a Virginia Divorce Attorney

Throughout your divorce proceedings, you'll naturally have a lot of questions specific to your circumstances. Get your questions answered by requesting one of our FREE divorce guides for women, or reserving your seat at our monthly divorce seminar - 757-425-5200.

The Virginia divorce attorneys at Hofheimer/Ferrebee are committed to fighting for your rights, assisting in child custody disputes, and advocating that you receive everything you are entitled to and need in order to start your new life.

What Every Virginia Woman Should Know About Divorce is full of thoughtful steps and practical tips that will help you during your separation, divorce, or child custody case including:

-- 20 guidelines for "separation under the same roof"