In order for your ex-spouse to prove his interest in your child's well-being, your ex may begin to show up at more places (PTA meetings, after-school activities, on the weekend for shopping) than he ever did before the divorce. Also, he may start to call and ask to take your child to a doctor's appointment or on a visit to a relative's house, whether or not these things were part of your Virginia child custody agreement. Your positive reaction to all this is necessary. Being a positive reciprocating parent will help you maintain good standing with the judge, even when his "Super Dad" performance drives you nuts and frustrates you to no end. Never withhold a visitation, even ifyou feel there is an especially dire reason to do so. The only way to properly withhold visitation from your child's other parent is to hold an emergency hearing before the visitation in question, with approval from your child custody attorney. Everyone is expected to adhere to the court's schedule of visitation. The court would be just as disapproving if your ex withheld visitation rights from you, so keep careful notes of any visitation violations that occur. There are always exceptions to visitation schedules including:
Deaths
Threat of violence
Hospitalizations
If an emergency situation prevents you from upholding a scheduled visitation between your child and your ex-spouse, your Virginia child custody attorney and the court needs to be notified immediately. A Virginia Child Custody Attorney Can Help You Deal with Abuse
Generally the court's position on violence is that a history of abuse should have already been established during the court proceedings. If you said nothing about abuse allegations during the divorce trials then it might seem suspect for you suddenly to mention it during your child custody hearings.
Just as much as the court wants your child to be safe from physical harm, they also want to protect your child from any manipulative behavior. Sudden accusations of abuse are very serious and need to be handled through your experienced Virginia child custody attorney.
At Hofheimer/Ferrebee, we understand that the health and happiness of your child is your #1 concern and we will work with you to address any fears and anxieties that you may have about your child's future. Our women's divorce attorneys will work with you every step of the way to ensure that you achieve the best possible child custody and child support arrangements for you and your children. Contact us today to schedule a legal consultation - (757) 425-5200.
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