For Women In Virginia: Coping With The Fallout Of Your Husband’s Affair (Part B)

After you discover your husband's adultery, you need to evaluate your plans for the future. In this situation, you have 2 options: to work toward reconciling your marriage or to seek a Virginia divorce.

If you choose to remain married to your husband, the 2 of you will need to do some serious talking. Rebuilding a marriage after adultery takes a great deal of work and communication, which can be very difficult. It often helps to seek the guidance of a professional marriage and family therapist to help you sort out your issues.

Of course, preserving your marriage only works if both people are willing. If your husband isn't on board, whether it's because he wants to continue his affair or he doesn't have the energy to dedicate to rebuilding the marriage, you need to be able to let go, move on and think about getting a Virginia divorce.

It's important to evaluate the overall health of your marriage before deciding on your next step after your husband's affair. Many times, adultery is just a symptom of marital breakdown, which often leads to Virginia divorce. In this scenario, the couple moves farther and farther apart emotionally as time goes by and after a while, no longer care about keeping the marriage together.

Deciding To Pursue a Virginia Divorce Following Your Husband's Affair

If you do decide to end your marriage because of adultery, you should be aware of the Virginia divorce laws that might affect you.

Sometimes, a couple may eventually engage in sexual intimacy after the husband commits adultery. Even if you're still angry with your husband and considering a Virginia divorce, this can happen, as human emotions tend to be complicated.

If you and your husband engage in sexual intimacy after you are aware of his adultery, a Virginia court will consider this as a sign that you have forgiven him. This can complicate your attempt to divorce your husband on the grounds of adultery.

If you want to pursue a divorce, you should have an experienced Virginia divorce attorney on your side. Your attorney will provide you with guidance and will represent your best interests during this difficult time. 

Contacting a Virginia Divorce Attorney

The decision to file for divorce usually comes at the end of a long and painful journey. In addition to the emotional turmoil involved, there's also a lot of fear and uncertainty about what the future holds. Concerns about children, mortgages and even just paying the bills or buying groceries can easily become overwhelming.

A Virginia divorce attorney at Hofheimer Family Law Firm can examine the specifics of your case to help you decide how much support to ask for, what child custody arrangement will work best for you and your children and how to fairly divide your marital assets. Request a FREE copy of our divorce book for women in Virginia, or reserve your seat at our monthly divorce seminar - 757-425-5200.