Explaining Your Divorce to the Family

Are you getting divorced in Virginia? The end of your marriage is probably an emotionally difficult topic for you and one that you may have a hard time talking about with your family, but learning to communicate with them can be an important part of coping with your Virginia divorce. 

When a couple gets divorced, the split affects more than just the couple; close family members also feel the impact. There will be changes in the family structure, new social situations to consider at holiday gatherings, new living arrangements for the children, and a host of other changes to prepare for. 

Breaking the News About Your Divorce 

As a general rule, you should tell whoever you're closest to, because that's who the divorce will affect the most. Not everyone in your life will need a sit-down explanation; most will be fine with a relatively casual mention. If you do decide to make an “official” announcement when getting divorced in Virginia, consider your strategy. 

Nobody wants to break the difficult news, but it helps if you do it as tactfully as possible. If you and your spouse are separating amicably, you may want to consider telling your family together. However, if it's a bitter breakup, it's probably best to share the news alone. If you and your spouse tell them together, it may result in a disagreement in front of your loved ones. 

When telling your family about your impending Virginia divorce, avoid getting into unnecessary detail; you don't need to divulge too much about infidelity, arguments over money, addiction, or anything else you find too personal to discuss. It's best not to drag out the news; simply state the fact that you're divorcing and then give whatever explanation you feel comfortable giving. 

The reaction of your family depends on many factors. You will know them better than anyone, so you should have a basic idea of what they will say and do in response to the news. Be prepared for family members to feel torn and/or take sides. If they liked your spouse, they may feel bad that things didn't work out, or they may even suggest that you're making the wrong decision. 

When coping with divorce, some people feel guilty that ending their marriage will disappoint their families. While it can be hard to let the people you love know that life is about to change for you in substantial ways, in the end, it is your life and only you and your spouse know the condition of your relationship. 

Contacting a Virginia Divorce Attorney 

Throughout your divorce proceedings, you’ll naturally have a lot of questions specific to your circumstances. Get your questions answered by requesting one of our FREE divorce guides for women or reserving your seat at our monthly divorce seminar. 

The Virginia divorce attorneys at Hofheimer Family Law Firm are committed to fighting for your rights, assisting in child custody disputes, and advocating that you receive everything to which you are entitled and need to start your new life – 1-757-425-5200.