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How to Tell Your Husband You Want a Divorce (Part B)

Handling Your Husband's Reaction when Mentioning Divorce

When considering how to tell your husband you want a divorce, prepare for his reaction.
Remember that while you may have been thinking about divorce for quite some time, this may be first time that your husband has thought about it. Know that his first reaction is spontaneous, and his feelings may change as he has time to reflect on your decision.

There are several reactions your husband may have. In some cases, your husband may place all of the blame on you and try to make you feel guilty. He may tell you that you are a bad wife, bad mother, selfish, manipulative, etc. Your husband may promise to change. No matter the reaction, it is important to remain calm and avoid becoming upset, apologetic, or defensive. If your husband begins verbally abusing you, it is OK to leave the situation.

If you have children, tell your husband that you will both remain active in their lives.
Make him feel good about his role in parenting your children.

After you have had this initial divorce conversation with your husband, it may be a good idea to physically separate yourself from him. This will help you avoid an argument and allow him to think about what has been discussed.

Avoiding Conflict

When telling your husband you want a divorce, avoid conflict when at all possible. Divorces are painful and heart-wrenching. It is important to leave harsh feelings aside when deciding how to split your assets and making child custody and support decisions. A hostile divorce can also take its toll emotionally on your children.

Speaking with a Virginia divorce lawyer can help you locate resources and mediators that can help you and your husband discuss these issues with the benefit of a neutral party. This can help your husband feel less "attacked" and allow both of you to discuss how to split your assets in a mutually beneficial way.

Retaining a Virginia Divorce Lawyer

Figuring out how to tell your husband that you want a divorce is likely to be an emotional and challenging event. An experienced Virginia divorce lawyer can offer tips on what you can say to your husband in order to avoid negative feelings. Your Virginia divorce attorney can also ensure that your interests are protected when working towards a divorce agreement.

At this vulnerable time, it's critical that you have exceptional legal representation that not only understands the specifics of your case, but is dedicated to your best interests and that of your family.

The Virginia divorce attorneys at Hofheimer Family Law Firm exclusively represent Virginia women who wish to file for divorce. We are committed to fighting for your rights, assisting in child custody disputes, and ensuring that you receive everything you are entitled to and need in order to start your new life. Contact us to set up a consultation of your case - (757) 785-9761.  

Charles Hofheimer
A tough, no nonsense Virginia divorce and custody lawyer for women only.