Emotional Stages Of Separation In Virginia (Part A)

If you're a Virginia woman contemplating separation, you're probably discovering the legal aspects of the Virginia separation process and how they apply to your case. But legal considerations are only part of the separation process. Like any other action, separation begins with an idea or a feeling that sets into motion a series of events.

Marriage is a legal contract, but unlike most legal contracts, it's built upon and bound together by strong emotional bonds. As any couple will tell you, the decision to separate doesn't come all at once; it's related to emotional separation, which happens in stages.

Looking at Virginia Separation: What to Expect Emotionally

The first emotional stage in a Virginia separation is typically disillusionment. Disillusionment is a feeling of deep disappointment over something in which you're emotionally invested.

Most couples experience some degree of disillusionment following the idyllic "honeymoon" stage of a relationship, but continued disillusionment can mean that the couple is realizing their basic incompatibility and questioning their future together.

Sometimes couples have difficulty talking about their state of mind at this stage. They don't express their feelings of disillusionment and disappointment, and stew in their negative feelings for each other for weeks, months, or even years.

In the erosion stage, couples often argue and tear each other down with words. The partners might express their disappointment with one another, attack each other's egos, and engage in petty contests over who is doing or giving more in the relationship.

Generally, there is a lot of anger and selfishness acted out in this stage. In some cases, the partners (or at least one partner) might want to save the relationship, but end up being hyper focused on the problems in the marriage.

Detachment is the final stage of emotional separation. When partners become emotionally detached from the marriage, they simply don't care about the relationship anymore.

Basically, they're tired of fighting, tired of trying to save the marriage, and usually want to spend a great deal of time apart. This is the stage when couples most commonly seek the advice of a Virginia divorce attorney in regards to taking steps for a Virginia separation and eventual ending of the marriage.

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