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Your Child's Guardian Ad Litem and You (Part B)


How to Interact With Your Child's Guardian Ad Litem
You should know that unlike the confidentiality which governs your relationship with your Virginia divorce attorney, nothing you say or give to the guardian ad litem is held in confidence. This means that what you tell your child's guardian ad litem can be shared with your spouse and his attorney.

Therefore, it is wise for you to deal with your child's guardian ad litem in a prudent and conservative manner. Realize that the guardian ad litem appointed under Virginia child custody law is experienced in the area of child custody and is seasoned in the exploits of dissatisfied spouses going through a custody battle.

Never try to coach your child to say he wants to live with you, or promise him certain rewards for giving the guardian ad litem your talking points about his father's short-comings. Doing this will almost always backfire.

You will do better to live and behave as if you are under constant surveillance by the powers that be under Virginia child custody law. Hold your emotions in check, and parent your children to the best of your abilities.

Next, it would be in your best interest to consult with an experienced Virginia divorce attorney who understands Virginia child custody issues. It is important that the Virginia divorce lawyer you choose has handled cases similar to yours and that they understand custody situations involving a guardian ad litem.

The Guardian Ad Litem and Your Virginia Child Custody Attorney

A divorce attorney experienced in Virginia child custody cases will often advise you to request the court appointment of a guardian ad litem. This is to your advantage under many different circumstances when you and your child custody attorney need to augment evidence admissible under Virginia child custody law during your custody hearing.

The guardian ad litem can report to the deciding judge about many key factors such as school and home life stability, extended family and medical care support systems, as well as the child's personal opinions.

It can be devastating when undesired rulings are made in your case under Virginia child custody law. If you receive an unfavorable ruling, know that it is not set in stone.

An experienced Virginia child custody attorney can file for an appeal or custody modification hearing wherein a guardian ad litem's work can act as your child's admissible testimony and highlight why a change in custody would be in your child's best interest.

At Hofheimer Family Law Firm, we understand that the health and happiness of your children is your #1 concern. We will work with you to address any fears and anxieties you may have about your children's future. Our women's-only divorce attorneys will guide you every step of the way to ensure that you achieve the best possible child custody and child support arrangements for you and your children.

To learn more about your Virginia divorce, request a FREE copy of our guide, What Every Virginia Woman Should Know About Divorce, or reserve your seat at our monthly divorce seminar - 757-425-5200.


Kristen Hofheimer
A passionate advocate and well known champion for women in divorce and child custody issues.